Honesty. Best policy?

I think of it as my lifelong mission to be there for people when they don't have anyone else.
I think of advice as something I give and give, but never really utilize it myself.
I'm aware, and I'm trying to improve.

Sometimes my honesty is not well received and it backfires.
I remember telling a guy at work his flaw: "You are one of the better people I've met, but you... You have this tendency to blame your mistakes on others, and it's not a very nice thing to do."
A pause. And it's usually during this pause that I quickly assess whether I should continue, or shut up and accept that it's not me you will take this from. That you will still learn about it at some point in your life, but through the hard way, through society's heartless lessons.
I really hate to see people learning through pain. It is what it is: pain.
Why would you ignore something you can try to correct?

Luckily for me, this guy took it well. Even though, he did spend the rest of the day asking me if he was 'terrible to work with', and that really made me feel guilty for being too harsh.
:<  [sorriehh]

There are others, though, who see it as an insult and will outlive god to have the last word at how I was wrong about him. I understand it's not pleasing to the ear. I understand this might be the first time anyone has been honest (brutally so, stupidly so) about what they see in you. I understand that sparks anger.

But it's also my wish that when I take the deep plunge of faith and courage in telling you what I try to be so honest about, you will fight back the compulsion to fire back.
Because, this isn't an argument.
Because, it makes me doubt the words I chose, and I might end up not telling this to those who needs it the most.
This... This right here is what makes me take the plunge anyway.