Saturday, 7 February 2015

Male or female, we are humans at the end of the day. Don't ever, for a second, think that only females are vulnerable. Never, for a second, think that only females can be emotional, judgmental, jealous, scheming... And all other stereotypes that we so forcefully tie in with the different genders. Ultimately... We are just humans. Just... A mere little human.

"Men should never hit women."
Hmm.
Shouldn't it be 'People should never hit people'?

Perhaps, this was under the traditional mindset that women are 'always' physically/emotionally weaker and therefore using violence against them would be wrong.
It's common knowledge that men and women are very different, so this statement is true to some extent. However, does that mean that violence would be alright if it were between two males?
Would that make it acceptable?
Violence itself is bad regardless. People acknowledge that.
But why is it that when men hit each other, it's a brash fight, a bad example, a dangerous situation, but when a man hits a woman, it's morally incorrect, "not right", and generally a more sensitive topic?
I'm female, and while I agree that we are generally not as strong as men and thus are at a disadvantage if physical fights were to occur, I do not agree that violence should be considered differently when it's between males.
Violence is violence.
Be it used against a female by a male, or against a male by one, it's wrong.
You are harming someone, most probably intentionally. Whether it's male or female doesn't matter, for both genders will have the less physically fit group included under the title.
It confuses me when people preach to their children about how they should never hit girls under the vague reason of it being 'wrong', but say something different like 'you were too rash' or 'that will get you in trouble one day' when it concerns two boys.
What makes it so different, may I ask?
Even the sensitive topic of rape goes both ways.
Female rape is a very serious and tender issue, addressed by some (of course many still do not do so and that's wrong too) while male rape is almost never addressed at all.
When a man talks about his traumatic experience of being raped, most brush it off with 'what a lucky guy you are' or other shallow remarks that assume this guy was desperate for sex and that 'deep down, you must have wanted it to happen'.
Why do we not see that both genders, guy or girl, will have their vulnerable moments?
Drugged, drunk, sick, not being physically fit enough to push the assaulter away...
Is it truly only females that face this problem?
Are we not stereotyping each other based on the gender when we say such things?
Male and female, we are different, yes.
Ain't nobody's denying that.
But be it violence or rape or other delicate issues of the world, we shouldn't always look at females as the victims (though they can be, just like guys could be).
We should remain sensitive, and treat these issues like we would with girls---for the mindset is so deeply engraved it's impossible to change overnight--- and see that the same issues and situations can hurt a guy just as much as it would hurt a girl.
Words can really hurt. And if someone in your life is opening up about something like this, chances are, you will either make or break him/her.

I may be wrong with all that's listed above, but I just think that it's weird how we handle the issues that are so alike---so differently---as though if we didn't, we wouldn't be drawing the line that marks the difference between two genders clearly enough.

I'm not sure who out there is reading this. But if you are---whoever and wherever you are in the world--- please make an effort to not be desensitized by our current society, and always take note of what words you choose. But if it's only the words you change, then it's superficial.

It's the fact that all males and females are ultimately, still humans, have emotions and can be vulnerable---that we need to embrace and realize.

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