Guys seem to like to keep their emotions to themselves
Somehow, opening up about their emotions and showing their vulnerable side is considered feminine
As though 'real men don't cry' is a true and tested statement.
That is obviously a silly stereotype and assumption
And if you know me, I try real hard not to stereotype others
It's not a very nice thing to do.
You seem to have suppressed emotions beneath that warm and friendly exterior, and while others call it 'PMS-ing', I'm guessing that you are just tired and slightly stressed out.
The last time I messaged you to tell you that you are doing great as a president, you told me you were just tired.
And while it is a stereotype, I gotta say, that guys in general do indeed like to be left alone with their emotions.
So I'm not sure if I should write you a card to hopefully cheer you up or just pretend that I don't see what I see.
Regardless, I can feel a little of your exasperation and frustration, and it bothers me. It bothers me because I don't like seeing others upset, and that I sense that you don't have an outlet to express that frustration. As though, you are trying real hard to keep it under control and under wraps, to remain the cheerful and sociable person everyone sees.
It feels like the role of a president is wearing you out, happy as you are doing the job.
And it's totally understandable.
So yeah. Should I write a card? People have ignored me or called me creepy in the past for doing so.
Yes, it's probably real creepy and weird.
Isn't it sad that in today's society, you can't express concern for a fellow human being without it seeming like you are a creepy stalker, or a secret admirer who wants him to like you back?
Can't it be seen as the straightforward intentions that I have?
And yes, I am affected by the way it's seen, simply cause I do judge myself for my own actions, even though I don't do that to others, as unhealthy as that is.
Today's society is such that you don't realize that a certain someone has been really upset the entire time---until he breaks down in front of you. Or, you have noticed and just kept mum about it because it's easier that way. Or, you are too cold a person to care enough.
Having been through that myself, I can safely say, that sometimes even bursting into uncontrollable sobs in front of others gets you nothing more than empty promises of 'ask us to help you in the future!' That are never fulfilled. You even get laughter. Snide comments. Sarcastic laughter.---even if the fact that you cried wasn't to garner attention, but due to suppressed emotions that couldn't be held back any longer.
When we ask 'are you okay?' We seem to mean it on an extremely superficial level. We seem to ask it just so we can feel good about ourselves. We seem to ask it just cause it seems the correct thing to do, and just for the sake of asking. We seem to ask it, expecting the expected answer of 'yeah, I'm fine'. No more probing. Case done and over with. The person remains broken underneath all that.
We seem to be turning into cold human beings who can't give two hoots about others.
Ain't that sad?
As an individual, shouldn't you try to be warm and sensitive to others' emotions?
Why, then, is such concern judged and deemed as something ugly by most?
Although, it can also be that you popped the question truly meaning it, but couldn't continue probing because that would be to satisfy your curiosity, and you can sense that the person doesn't want to talk about it. Been there, done that.
So. Should I write a card? Or a straightforward 'are you feeling alright? You seem to be a little stressed out.'
Should I?
As long as the intentions are not what they seem to be to outsiders, it's okay, no?
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