"I feel so fat"

'I'm hungry but I can't eat because I'm trying to lose weight'.

'My thighs! They're disgusting. I can't look at them.'

...These are such disheartening phrases.

Why don't you ever see that what you have is an hourglass figure, with an absolutely proportionate and healthy looking body?

You're not fat...

You're not.

First of all, do you even know the true definition of being 'fat'?

It means to be obese. And obese means being overweight.

And 'overweight' means that your BMI is over 25.

If it's within the healthy range of 18.5 to 25, I fail to see why you're 'fat'.

It may be an attention-seeking phrase or compliment-seeking ploy.

But if it isn't, and you truly think so,

Then there is a problem.

There's a problem because you are believing in something that you're not. 

There's a problem because your self-esteem gets affected, and you start abstaining from cravings or simply eating enough to fill up your stomach.

And that?

That, my friend, is unhealthy.

Your belief in literally starving yourself of your natural physical and mental needs for a more ideal body type is unhealthy, not just for your body but for your mind as well.

Harping on about the cons is useless, so I shan't do it.

You know it better than I do anyway.

But really, you have no idea how saddening it is that friends left and right are always conscious about their weight and would skip meals just so they can lose weight or 'feel thinner'. They would say things like they wish they were thinner or taller, ask for/guess my height and weight, compare it, and make it one more reason to not like their bodies.

You have no inkling of the number of people I know that does this either.

And the thing is, I'm not even that skinny. 

I look healthy, that's all.

Even if I'm dizzy and lethargic half the time. (But that's unrelated...haha)

Please,

Listen to me when I say that being healthy is honestly all that matters.

You don't have to strive for the 'common BMI' of 19 that all your friends have, that leads to your feeling of being fat for a BMI of 21.

You don't have to constantly pinch your forearms and stomach to find out how much 'fat' you need to lose in order to become 'more attractive' or 'ideal'.

You don't have to have a thigh gap or anything.
(Speaking of which, thigh gaps are due to your bone structure, not your flesh) 

Those are mere expectations that you put on yourself.

Listen to me when I say that no one is going to love you less for that extra inch round your waist, or for those curvy thighs you deem 'disgusting'.

Phrases like 'every body type is beautiful' can be hypocritical at times,

And it doesn't help.

But that doesn't mean that you should not accept your body type for what it is born to be---curvy, straight, pear or anything else.

After all, beauty is subjective.

It is extremely understandable that you'd wish for a body type that you weren't born with.

But if it causes you to feel ugly and not see the truth about your health, 

Then it is a mindset and thought pattern that you need to change before it consumes you and your self esteem. 

Striving for improvement is great and all, but it shouldn't be a 'need' that bugs you endlessly, not unless your health is at stake and you really are overweight to the point of possibly getting weight-related health issues.

This is really an issue of self acceptance and liking what you already have.

Exercise and switch to a healthier diet with lesser junk food if it helps you get fitter, but don't starve yourself of the nutrients you require for your growth.

.

That doesn't mean that you slam down and hate on other girls who  "look like"  they don't eat enough either.  Things like calling thigh gaps ugly and overusing phrases like 'real women have curves' is absolutely childish and mean. (After all, the fact that you have two Xs for your last pair of chromosomes is what makes you female, not your body type. That's as silly as saying that 'real' men are tall and buff and tanned.)
For all you know, they may have a large appetite and a naturally high metabolism, and aren't 'anorexic' or 'ugly' like some of you like to say. 

There are people with acne who may have a daily cleansing routine but whom just can't get rid of the pimples due to genes and allergies, or people who are naturally bigger despite exercise and a restricted but healthy diet, or anyone else on the street that you place unfair judgment upon based on appearances alone.

It is really meaningless and cruel that you should be making all these biased, immature, and hurtful comments without prior knowledge about them.

It's so painful to watch 

because neither me nor the world thinks that you are fat or ugly, but you do. You think that just because you don't have a waist of 24 inches or  legs the 'perfect' shape and size, you are 'ugly'.

You think that just because your hips are a little broader, you are not slender enough to be 'pretty'.

And somehow, 

Whatever I say to you turns into a blade that I'd never meant to forge,

That finds that crack within your heart,

That drills and stabs,

That wounds and doesn't forgive.

Please, friend.

Won't you listen to me for once and see the truth about yourself?

You are curvy and well-developed, that's all.

You have a BMI within the healthy range, and that should be all.

You don't have anything to worry about or anything to cut down on.

Let that be all, 

Won't you?